big goals.

Small, short-term goals are always on my mind. And on my to-do list. Finish that paper; research that topic; email my landlord; call the bridal store; read that chapter; make that appointment. Each small goal gets a little check mark next to it when it's been accomplished.

Small goals are important. They get us where we need to be. But what about our big goals? Goals that may never actually be checked off, because we'll constantly strive for them? These are the goals that I've been thinking of lately.

It's easy to get sucked into day-to-day busy-ness and kind of, sort of forget that you're living this one life you get now. But we are! Every day. That's all we get. It's important to remember how we are trying to live. Not just the next item on the to-do list. 

I'm pretty good at certain things. I'm also not so good at certain things. This doesn't make me unique. We all have strengths, and we all have things we need to work on in order to be a better person. These are our big goals. The goals that bring us closer to our values and who we want to be. 

Here are my big goals that I've been thinking of and working on lately:

1) Move beyond feeling compassion to showing compassion.

2) Stop being lazy about the small things. I'm kind of paradoxical in this way -- I get all of my work done with time to spare, I'll wake up at the crack of dawn to be productive, and I can work hours on end without stopping -- yet, I'm lazy about little things. Taking the empty toilet paper roll off but not replacing it; not getting gas until I really-absolutely-seriously need to; leaving my shoes by the door instead of taking them upstairs (until there's a monstrous pile); not getting up to grab my computer charger until my laptop is holding onto power for dear life. I need to work on it.

3) Continuously remember to feel gratitude for everything I have. Because it's a lot. 

4) Rely less on technology. Spend less time on my iPhone. When sitting and waiting for a friend, choose to pay attention to what's going on around me -- the sights, smells, thoughts in my head, sensations in my body -- rather than immediately reaching for my phone. When I get into bed at night, don't give in to the urge to check updates one more time. Don't let my virtual mailbox be the first sight I see when my eyes open in the morning. Spend less time on social media. I don't really need to see what that random person I went to high school with is doing these days. I really, truly don't need to see everything posted on my Instagram feed today. Nothing will change if I don't.

5) Meditate regularly. Even when I don't feel like it. Become disciplined in this practice. 

6) Live in the present moment, especially when I'm doing the things I enjoy. Focus less on the past and the future, and more on the now.  

7) Know and accept myself, while also striving to grow. As is human nature, I find myself coveting traits of others that I don't have myself. For example, I tend to be reserved, calm and quiet; I sometimes wish I could be more energetic, outgoing, and charismatic like others I see. There is a balance here: I want to accept myself for who I am and value the positive traits I do have, while also knowing that I can push my boundaries and step outside of my comfort zone in order to grow. 

So. What are your big goals? I think it's important to, at the very least, think about them. Even better, write them down and check up on yourself every now and then. Or, share them on the world wide web like me :)

1 comment:

  1. Ditto to stop being lazy about the small things! I leave all of those little things until the last minute and it's terrible. Yet I always make time for work, manage the blog, take classes, workout.

    Right now my long term goal is getting myself healthy. I've gone through a cycle over the last 9 months of injury to perfect health and back around again. This time I'm determined to get it right even if that means letting go of some things. Mainly running :(